Have you ever felt like when you speak no one is listening?
Whether you are sharing a thought, presenting an idea, speaking in front of a large group, or sitting face to face with someone, feeling like you are not being heard is a difficult thing.
Sound expert, Julian Treasure share how you can actually help others to hear what you have to say in this ten minute Ted Talk. The tips he shares are surprising yet extremely helpful.
I’ve also listed the seven ways he mentions that people will stop listening to you and the four timeless principles that he shares to ensure that people will want to hear what you have to say.
There is a big difference between listening and hearing. Listening requires great intentionality. Hearing someone can happen even if you didn’t want to.
Listening is focused.
Hearing is peripheral.
If you’ve ever wondered why people seem to disengage or withdraw from conversation with you it is worth asking yourself if it for any of the following reasons:
Seven Ways To Keep People From Listening To You
1. Do you Gossip?
2. Are you Judgmental?
3. Are your words full of Negativity?
4. Does what you say come across as Complaining?
5. Do you make Excuses?
6. Are your stories full of Exaggeration?
7. Are you Dogmatic?
If you want to ensure that when you speak people will want to listen (whether is to one or a room full), examine your heart, check your motives, and make sure that when you open your mouth you are upholding the following principles.
Four Ways To Speak So That Others Will Want To Listen To You
1. Honesty is the best policy.
2. Allow Authenticity to ring through your words.
3. Live with Integrity.
4. Temper everything with Love.
Are there other ways that will cause people to stop listening to you? Please share your thoughts below.
